WHAT IS NORMAL SEX?

How do you define normal sex?  If we look at it from a broader traditional western outlook it’s probably safe to say that ‘normal’ sex consists of hetero man on woman in the missionary position.  What’s really interesting about that is the actual percentage of people having sex the ‘normal’ way, and how amazing it is that the above formula is so entrenched in our cultural zeitgeist. 

It’s our well substantiated feeling that ‘normal’ sex is in fact really not that normal at all, and for those that are doing it the normal way all the time you have to ask yourself are they really enjoying it?  Most likely if they’ve been in a longer term relationship and the good old fashioned in and out isn’t so new to them they’re probably fantasizing about something else, or living those fantasies out with another partner on the side.  That raises a couple of questions.  First for those who prefer the safety of the ‘normal’ paradigm what’s keeping them there?  The second question that pertains to everybody else out there doing it, why aren’t we talking about all of the fun, and amazing pleasure we’re receiving through a healthy sexual relationship?

This is a fact. It’s 100% healthy to be open to your sexual desires and fantasies.  For those that would like to explore those desires in a safe, and consensual way well we define that as being an integral part of what should be considered normal sex.  To further illustrate the disconnect we as a society have with what we do behind closed doors, and how we express ourselves in the public realm we have to look no further than how we interact with our local sex shops. 

Occasionally we’ll hear comments either in our shop, or out at our local watering hole about how someone may not need that vibrator, cuffs, or paddle, and that the good old-fashioned way works just fine for them.  Well that’s great if that’s truly all you want, or fantasize about, but let’s take a second and shift that paradigm a little.  As consumers we don’t walk into shoe stores for example look at the offerings adorning the wall, and think oh my God what do they need all these shoes for, don’t they just need something to put on their feet!  Freaks!  The disparity between the two does make for interesting conversation about what we do, or think about doing sexually and how those attitudes manifest themselves in our public mind.

 So right now we’re going to present a challenge for you.  There are two parts to this challenge, the first is to initiate a conversation about sex with your friends at the next social function your at, and the second is to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your partner about your sexual desires.  The first does the world a service by bringing out the greatest thing we all do, but rarely talk about into the public arena, and the second even if not played out will give you a chance to connect with your partner and perhaps learn a thing or two, about what makes each other tick.  Enjoy!